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Iโ€™ve been thinking about this for quite a while, and figured Iโ€™d ask โ€œIs it just me?โ€ฆWhat would you do?โ€

Letโ€™s say youโ€™ve been invited to someoneโ€™s house for dinner. Yum.

You arrive and theyโ€™re preparing the food. Thereโ€™s piles of fresh produce and meat on the counter, ready to be whipped up into something magical and tasty. Vibrant tomatoes, leafy greens, juicy meat ready to be roastedโ€ฆ.hmmmm.
Can you practically taste it?

As you sip your glass of red wine, you watch and chat with your host as they prepare dinner.
They wash the raw chicken or pork under running water in the kitchen sink. Afterwards a quick wipe their hands (uh oh, you begin to thinkโ€ฆno soap!โ€ฆnot to mention theyโ€™re going to use that kitchen towel again and again and againโ€ฆ).
Then they fill the sink with water to wash the lettuceโ€ฆwithout cleaning it out!

Ick!

Or what if theyโ€™re making a salad, and take the knife theyโ€™ve just used to cut up the uncooked pork sausage?
Without wiping the knife, they begin slicing the cucumbers and tomatoes for the salad, tossing it all together, then triumphantly setting it down on the table.
I mean, Hello?

Since youโ€™re a extremely polite and gracious guest, like I am, (and believe me, no oneโ€™s allergic to lettuce or cucumbersโ€ฆso forget that one.)
I mean, itโ€™s not like you can just eat around the salmonella, can you?

โ€ฆwhat do you do?

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22 comments

    • Estelle

    What I would do? Wish I had not seen that and go to the living room :-)

    • Ruth

    I guess the best thing would be to arrive late or stay out of the kitchen during prep.

    • olivier

    serve yourself another glass of wine โ€ฆ

    • Richard AB

    Youโ€™re being a bit to fussy!

    • Lil

    play pretend that i havenโ€™t seen any of thatโ€ฆ

    • Regina

    Offer to help and clean the sink out yourself and then ask for the soap for your hands.

    • Brett

    Wineโ€™s not strong enough. Offer to make pre-dinner martinis.

    • farmgirl

    ICK is right! No wonder I mostly eat at home. . . : )

    I thought the โ€œserve yourself another glass of wineโ€ was the best response until I got to the martini one. . . Really, I donโ€™t know what I would have done. I think I might have developed some allergies real fastโ€“even if they didnโ€™t sound believable. Or tell myself that my foodie friends would at least have bought quality meat with a very low risk of salmonella.

    And you can hope the cooks in question read this post! : )

    • Fatemeh

    I have to admit that the ONLY thing that skeeves me out is poultry โ€” pork, beef, fishโ€ฆ I donโ€™t really care too much about those. Rickettsia is pretty much a non-issue these days (in the US pork population, at least) and I figure I eat beef and fish raw regularly soโ€ฆ

    That said, Iโ€™d ask to help, and wash up before doing whatever.

    Of course, Iโ€™m pretty oblivious, so assuming Iโ€™d notice this stuff to begin with is giving me rather too much credit.

    • Rich

    No self respecting foody should be so ignorant. You say the ingredients looked great, so obviously this person has some knowledge of good cuisine. They MUST have watched the Food Network at some point in their lives. Either way, this is just basic hygeine.

    If it were me, I would have said something politely:

    โ€œYou donโ€™t wash your hands after working with meat? Wow. I always do. Better safe than sorry.โ€

    OR

    โ€œAre you sure you donโ€™t need any help? I can clean out the meat coated sink for you if you like?โ€

    • John

    If you are not prepared to speak up to your host about his/her lack of care and cleanliness then, never accept another invitation to lunch or dine at that house again! Tough, but necessary โ€“ why should you risk serious illness just for the sake of friendship?

    • Melissa

    Everything in life is a risk, isnโ€™t it? I would probably decide that Iโ€™d rather risk being sick and still have friends than be healthy without them. I mean, considering that youโ€™d be in the doctorโ€™s office at the first twinge of salmonella, chances are you wouldnโ€™t be out of commission for too longโ€ฆ And next time, invite them to your place!

    • Siam

    What would I do? Iโ€™d eat it without giving a second thought, like Iโ€™ve done for more than a year, without any health problems and with lots of good times with my generous hosts.

    Yes โ€“ I think itโ€™s just you, Dave.

    • Shuna

    I worked for a chef who didnโ€™t ice down ANYTHING. His prep crew spattered blood from large pieces of dead mammals all over a butcher block table and then moved onto fish. When I challenged these practices he said, โ€œYou know not every kitchen is as clean as a laboratory like The French Laundry! In my country we butcher live animals in the street.โ€
    It did give me some perspective.
    Although in this particualr case I might insert my opinion about soap.

    • Hande

    In the two cases you point out, the sink and the knife, I for myself would (and do!) as you imply, that is, wash the sink before lettuce and wipe the knife before cucumber. Wash hands with soap after handling meat? Only when i am done with cooking, not as an in-between step.
    What I would do when I am at friends? Say nothing, nip my wine. As other commenters pointed out, have been living like this for a long time (and even worse in other countries), just enjoy and donโ€™t worry too much. But my worrilessness has limits as well, just way further. So in short: it is not just you, but you could relax a bit.

    • Alisa

    Your description of this experience, is NOT how I behave in my kitchen AT ALL. However my cleaning rituals (which would make you proud) do come from the fear mongering, and often exaggerated collected american psyche, which has implanted somewhere in the back of their thought process, โ€œoh shit, if I donโ€™t, I could get suedโ€. As clean as I am, and hope that everyone else is, I know that these standards are not kept up in many homes, restaurants and different cultures. Please no one be offendedโ€ฆ..but for example, many cultures, and their restaurants around the world just donโ€™t do it like โ€œusโ€, and I happily eat there, and never get sick.

    • Sarah

    *grins* Well youโ€™ve got a few options.

    1) Call Fido or Fluffy and point them in the direction of the salad when your host/hostess is otherwise disposed. Few will serve a salad course thatโ€™s been started by the family pet, however worshipped;

    2) Offer to carry the salad bowl to the table, trip, and spill into the sink. Apologize profusely and offer to make a new one, since this one you have obviously โ€˜ruinedโ€™;

    3) Load up on bread and butter, ignore the salad, and joke about standing up for anti-dieters everywhere;

    4) Bring your own salad course as your gift to parties (rather than a bottle of wine or a loaf of bread or a chocolate dessert);

    or (and this is my personal favorite among friends)

    4) Be honest. Your position as a chef has got to lend you, to steal from the Amateur Gourmet, some street credโ€™. Be gentle and explain to your friend that you noticed that they didnโ€™t wash the knife after handling the raw meat, that youโ€™re concerned for salmonella, and explain proper cross-contamination avoidance techniques.

    Itโ€™s not just you that wants to be healthy, afterall. :)

    • emi

    exactly! Good advise Sarah.

    • mindy

    donโ€™t eat the salad is a given!โ€ฆoffering uninvited advice can be touchy, depending on the cook :)! i feel your pain! been there and probably will be again, since my mother-in-law is the main offender. (iโ€™ve been known to wipe her counters with clorox when she isnโ€™t looking)

    • cindy

    oh wow! this is right up my alley, having been poisoned both by campylobacter and something else that was growing in room-temperature meatloaf. ugh. hereโ€™s what i do now: drink lots of white wine! and hereโ€™s why: http://www.winespectator.com/Wine/Daily/News/0,1145,1881,00.html

    • Valerie

    In France now for years and years, I have seen many such forgotten rules of basic hygiene as meals are being prepared. One set of friends, in particular, are on our list of people we will go out to dinner with, will invite to our place, but will avoid in any way possible when an invitation to eat at theirs is proferred.

    I once saw them put a frozen veal roast into a pot of simmering cider and then throw in a few vegetables that had been cut up but never washed. That was a difficult meal to get through.

    After the meal, I jumped up saying I would make the coffee, dug out the bleach from under the sink and washed the coffee machine thoroughly before making the coffee. I drank the coffee with a serene mind. Thankfully, no one walked in on me as I scrubbed.

    Bringing up the ? of hygiene with a host here in France is just not done. So, next invitation, suggest that new restaurant XYZ that youโ€™ve just been dying to tryโ€ฆ

    ;)

    • David

    Yikes.
    This has certainly been enlighteningโ€ฆand interesting.
    Will post Part II of this question shortly, thanks for taking the time to respond.

    In the meantime, get out your Mr. Clean and clean those sinks!

    โ€ฆand clean those countertops while youโ€™re at itโ€ฆcheck it out here!

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